In honor of Valentine’s Day, I thought it would be nice to feature some of my favorite couples. Call me a romantic, but I find love to be inspiring. Love between family, friends or your significant other is such an important part of life. These couples were kind enough to offer up a few words of advice and seeing as they are either already married or engaged, I think us single people better take notes! First lets start with Kristin & Hugo…
How they met: We first met in the summer of 2008 while interning for PwC in Chicago. It wasn’t until we both represented our company at a conference for a weekend that we ‘noticed’ each other. We went on a few dates and decided to pursue our relationship even as we went back to our respective schools. We took on the challenge of having a long distance relationship for about 3 years. We moved in together January 2012, were engaged March 2012, and recently married in October 2013.
Thoughts on Valentine’s Day: As previously mentioned, the majority of our relationship has been long distance. We had to pick and choose what weekends and occasions were important to us. Valentine’s Day has never struck a strong chord with either of us; we like to think it’s because we show our love for each other every day
- Be in the moment. As a major planner, this is something I will have to continue to work on. I’m always looking forward to and planning for the next thing. Life is so short and precious that we need to learn to enjoy the positives and negatives of our current situation and continue to work for the things you want in your future.
- Forgive and move on. It’s not worth it to hold grudges over something that is so small (in the grand scheme of things).
- Have fun! Go on date nights. Take vacations. Make love often. Try new things. Just enjoy your time together!
- Communication is key for a successful relationship. Men cannot read our minds (unfortunately), so we need to be clear on what we want and what we’re thinking.
- The “ideal” mate. Many of us have a list of characteristics for our “ideal” man. If someone makes you happy, challenges you, inspires you, encourages you, loves you, that’s all that matters. Everything else will fall into place.
- Share. Committing to someone requires an ability to share. You share your family, your values, your passions, your dreams, your everything. This doesn’t mean you have to love everything the other person loves. Kristin loves cooking, Hugo can’t follow a recipe. Hugo loves to collect shoes; Kristin thinks he should sell them for closet space. It’s impossible to be on the same wavelength for everything, but you must share everything with each other.
- Happy Wife, Happy Life. This old adage is true, but not in the sense most perceive it to be. When you love someone so deeply, you begin to feel what they feel. Their triumphs are your triumphs, just as their defeats are your defeats. When you reach this point, don’t do things merely to appease your spouse. Rather, do them because your feelings are forever linked.
- Endure. “Love suffers long and is kind — it is not proud. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.” As at many weddings, this passage was recited during our ceremony. This biblical passage speaks volumes to something we all come to terms with. At some point in any relationship, you come to a crossroads on whether you want to continue. Every relationship is tested, time and time again. Sometimes we need a reminder that it’s worth it, but you must always choose to endure.
P.S. Special thanks to Hugo and Kristin for sharing their thoughts. What an inspiring couple! Feel free to share you comments below and look out for the next couple later this week.